By now you've probably heard about Sheryl Sandberg's and Maria Chavez’s campaign to ban the word “bossy."
The campaign stems from a sexist conniption about the fact that rude, pushy girls often get labeled “bossy” by their peers and other adults. Sandberg and Chavez write:
Behind the negative connotations lie deep-rooted stereotypes about gender. Boys are expected to be assertive, confident and opinionated, while girls should be kind, nurturing and compassionate. When a little boy takes charge in class or on the playground, nobody is surprised or offended. We expect him to lead. But when a little girl does the same, she is often criticized and disliked.
First of all, pushy, rude, and “bossy” guys are typically labeled much worse things—“jerk”, “a--hole," and “douchebag” being just a few choice words that come to mind. There was always that guy in high school—the popular, dashing one who got all the attention and girls. Sure, he led the wolf pack of seniors, but did people really love him? Or were they just afraid to stand up to him?
The same goes for bossy girls.