In session with a leading victim of Narcissistic Abuse at the hands of one Barack Obama.
Please come in, have a seat. May I call you Debbie?
So what’s troubling you today?
Yes. Yes, I understand. I hear this story from women all too frequently these days.
While he was wooing you he seemed like such a good listener, as if he really cared. He knew all the right things to say. It was enough to make a girl swoon.
I know: His vows seemed so sincere. He seemed like he’d be such a good partner.
And it turned out that all he cared about was your “lady parts.”
I know, Debbie, that this may seem like a terrible coincidence and, to be frank, I am breaking a confidence here… but not only have I heard this same sad story before, I’ve heard it about the very same man. I shouldn’t be telling you this, but I’m so tired of hearing of this guy hurting people with his suave deceptions. I’m sorry, Debbie, but since you got together with him he’s seduced quite a few other women. Whether you want to forgive him, to stick with him, is up to you — but you need to know.
If there is any good side to this, it’s that so many of the others have also seen him for the person he really is, which will make it harder for him to hurt others in the future. You know what they say about payback… and about a woman’s scorn.
And I understand why you feel that you can only talk to me about this. Yes, I know, admitting that you were so badly fooled makes you feel a little bit stupid, like a bad judge of character. You feel like you can’t talk to your friends about it, like you have to keep pretending that he makes you happy, that he fulfills your needs, that he makes you feel safe and secure, that he is the man he claimed to be — even though you now know that none of those things is true.
But, Debbie, my best advice for you is to face your fear directly, and talk to your friends about it. You’ll find them sympathetic, and at least a couple of them with the same experience. Sadly some will even have the same experience with the same man — but that says much more about him than about you. These conversations will give you the confidence to make the change you know is right
It’s often difficult to admit making a mistake, but true friends wouldn’t hold it against you, especially when you were really taken in by deception. Talking about it with people who share your experience, and particularly with women rather than with me, is really the best thing you can do.
But, Debbie, we really need to get one thing clear here which I think might help you move on to a healthier place, to clearer thinking, to being able to feel good about yourself again: an election is not a marriage.
Your vote for Barack Obama, no matter how much you might regret it, no matter how much you may feel like you were blind to his now-obvious insincerity, was not “until death do us part.” It’s OK to move on. It’s OK to break up. It’s OK to say “I like the other guy better.” It’s not cheating. It’s not breaking a promise: you never made one.
I’ve heard so many people say they’re trying to keep a relationship together, whether it’s “for the children” or just so they don’t feel like they’ve failed. But when it comes to politics, such thinking is not only misplaced. It is dangerous.
A smart, accomplished woman I know just learned that her husband was cheating on her and spending their family’s savings on bimbos who were just looking for a “sugar daddy.” If you were that woman, would you risk your children and what savings you have left to give the guy another chance? Of course not. You’re too smart for that.
A man of faith in a godless age is hitting Americans where it hurts.
Mr. and Mrs. American Spectator Reader, let P.J. O’Rourke talk sense to your kids.
In Britain, defending your property can get you life.
It won’t take long for conservatives to scratch this presidential wannabe off their 2008 scorecard.
Was the President done in by the economy, or by the politics of the economy?
H/T to National Review Online