It wasn't the flavor of her lasagna or the shabby section of
town where her restaurant was located that made Elaine
Kaufman into a legendary celebrity.
What Elaine Edna Kaufman from the Bronx created was a
community of interesting people. In an age of excessive controls
and isolation, a time when new homes are built without front
porches and cafeteria workers get sued for calling customers
"honey," she created a special gathering space, a place where
characters were appreciated, a place where a managerial ethos
hadn't snuffed out the last remnants of surprise and rough edges
were still permitted to flourish.
In 2003, the New York Landmarks Conservancy named Kaufman
a "Living Legend."
"New York City dining doyenne Elaine Kaufman died Friday
at the age of 81 from complications of emphysema," reported CNN on
December 4. "As proprietor of the eponymous Elaine's restaurant on
Manhattan's Upper East Side, since 1963, she held court nightly
over a star-studded scene …"
Kaufman started out selling stamps at Gimbels and checking
hats and selling cigars at the Progressive Era Political Club in
Greenwich Village.
Boyfriend Alfredo Viazzi, an aspiring writer, introduced
Kaufman to the restaurant business at Portofino, his café in
Greenwich Village, a popular hangout for writers and theater
people.
Viazzi says Ms. Kaufman "took my pots and pans" when the
relationship ended and she opened her own restaurant for
$10,000.
The writers followed Kaufman. The welcoming new
proprietress provided running tabs for the ofttimes broke authors
struggling to finish their first books or pitching freelance
articles in order to pay the rent.
"Poor bastards," she said in an interview last year with
John Heilpern for Vanity Fair, referring to writers. "I
like their minds."
"One writer who ran up a considerable tab eventually went
into the bakery business and tried to pay her back in ganache
cakes," reported Heilpern. "Another regular, Winston Groom, owed
several thousand dollars, then wrote Forrest Gump and
happily settled his debt."
Jackie Kennedy preferred a table in the back with Onassis.
"She sent Caroline and John over for dinner when they were
teenagers and said, 'Look after them. Send me the bill,'" explained
Kaufman.
A table in the corridor was saved for Woody Allen most
nights, no reservation necessary. Her standard line if a newcomer
asked for directions to the men's room: "Make a right at Woody
Allen."
"I'm very lucky," Kaufman told Heilpern. "I get to go out
seven nights a week and meet a lot of people I happen to like. How
bad is that?"
Writing in 2005 that "there is no one even vaguely like
her," Liz Smith summed up Kaufman: "The owner of this unpretentious
spot is a big-hearted closet intellectual, a sexy charmer and a
red-hot plump and powerful mama, who isn't a pushover and who is,
indeed, a hard taskmaster for phonies and fakes. If she is your
friend, you hardly need other friends. If you misbehave around her,
she could throw your ass right out into the street."
In 1998, a marketing executive sued her for $12 million.
He'd ordered one drink to split with his companion. Ms. Kaufman
allegedly said, "You people look to me like poor white trash." He
claimed Kaufman then slapped him in the face. She denied it all,
saying just that he got in her face.
The litigious customer didn't get the $12 million jackpot.
"Time was when men were men," Kaufman said last year in the
Vanity Fair interview. "Now they call a lawyer and sue
you."
About the Author
Ralph R. Reilandis the B. Kenneth Simon professor of free enterprise and an associate professor of economics at Robert Morris University in Pittsburgh.
Many years ago, my wife and I were in NYC and went to Elaine's.
While enjoying our supper, who should walk in but Stephen Sondheim,
our favorite composer/librettist.
What a moment! We had seen "Into the Woods" and all of
Sondheim's other shows and thought they were brilliant.
How wonderful to be in the same room with a musical genius! A
giant of the American musical theatre.
If we could have had the good fortune to live in NYC, we would
have been frequent diners at Elaine's. Those were the days!
Betina| 12.15.10 @ 12:25PM
Always thought the woman thought the world of herself, as if by
creating the environment for the hoity toity to congregate and
preen, she elevated herself to their status as well. Who is she
calling anyone white trash? She was a celebrity chaser wannabe who
provided the forum needed to stop the chase and enjoy the celebrity
conferred upon herself by association. Big deal.
IMKessel| 12.15.10 @ 12:43PM
It is rude to speak ill of the dead since they cannot defend
themselves.
As for Ms. Kaufman’s reasons for opening the eatery, motives are
like diamonds: multifaceted. What is seen is often what is sought;
if you look through the glass darkly, darkness you will find. No
human is without fault nor without selfish motives and deeds.
Holding a person responsible in life teaches serves both humanity
and the individual. Berating a person in death does neither.
Enjoy a gracious day.
Ted| 12.15.10 @ 3:32PM
That was a beautiful, stunning, and charitable rebuke. All the
more so because it's 100% the truth.
IMKessel| 12.15.10 @ 6:57PM
Ted,
Your kind words are deeply appreciated.
Ira
Seek| 12.15.10 @ 12:52PM
Elaine "chased" celebrities better than other restaurateurs
because she cared about her customers on a personal level. She
fiercely guarded their privacy, and good for her. Otherwise, she
would have lost friends almost as quickly as she won them. The lady
was an eccentric, but in the good sense. R.I.P.
Occam's Tool| 12.15.10 @ 5:54PM
I was sitting in Cantor's Deli one night, and I look to my right
and there is Danny Aiello, conversing with a group of friends. My
view of things when I lived in LA was NOT to be star-struck; I
figured those people deserved their moments of peace and quiet; G-d
knows I needed it myself after a day. If Elaine provided famous
people with a homey place they could relax in, and in doing so
helped with their balance, fine. Apparently, she did.
general summerall | 12.15.10 @ 6:30PM
Kudzu once tried to get into Elaine's to meet his hero Norman
Mailer. Winston Groom got in but would the lady have allowed
Forrest and Bubba to get in.
Anthony| 12.15.10 @ 7:01PM
George Plimpton has some great stories about Elaine's in " The
Best of Plimpton".
Edward White| 12.15.10 @ 11:10AM
Many years ago, my wife and I were in NYC and went to Elaine's. While enjoying our supper, who should walk in but Stephen Sondheim, our favorite composer/librettist.
What a moment! We had seen "Into the Woods" and all of Sondheim's other shows and thought they were brilliant.
How wonderful to be in the same room with a musical genius! A giant of the American musical theatre.
If we could have had the good fortune to live in NYC, we would have been frequent diners at Elaine's. Those were the days!
Betina| 12.15.10 @ 12:25PM
Always thought the woman thought the world of herself, as if by creating the environment for the hoity toity to congregate and preen, she elevated herself to their status as well. Who is she calling anyone white trash? She was a celebrity chaser wannabe who provided the forum needed to stop the chase and enjoy the celebrity conferred upon herself by association. Big deal.
IMKessel| 12.15.10 @ 12:43PM
It is rude to speak ill of the dead since they cannot defend themselves.
As for Ms. Kaufman’s reasons for opening the eatery, motives are like diamonds: multifaceted. What is seen is often what is sought; if you look through the glass darkly, darkness you will find. No human is without fault nor without selfish motives and deeds. Holding a person responsible in life teaches serves both humanity and the individual. Berating a person in death does neither.
Enjoy a gracious day.
Ted| 12.15.10 @ 3:32PM
That was a beautiful, stunning, and charitable rebuke. All the more so because it's 100% the truth.
IMKessel| 12.15.10 @ 6:57PM
Ted,
Your kind words are deeply appreciated.
Ira
Seek| 12.15.10 @ 12:52PM
Elaine "chased" celebrities better than other restaurateurs because she cared about her customers on a personal level. She fiercely guarded their privacy, and good for her. Otherwise, she would have lost friends almost as quickly as she won them. The lady was an eccentric, but in the good sense. R.I.P.
Occam's Tool| 12.15.10 @ 5:54PM
I was sitting in Cantor's Deli one night, and I look to my right and there is Danny Aiello, conversing with a group of friends. My view of things when I lived in LA was NOT to be star-struck; I figured those people deserved their moments of peace and quiet; G-d knows I needed it myself after a day. If Elaine provided famous people with a homey place they could relax in, and in doing so helped with their balance, fine. Apparently, she did.
general summerall | 12.15.10 @ 6:30PM
Kudzu once tried to get into Elaine's to meet his hero Norman Mailer. Winston Groom got in but would the lady have allowed Forrest and Bubba to get in.
Anthony| 12.15.10 @ 7:01PM
George Plimpton has some great stories about Elaine's in " The Best of Plimpton".