Those familiar with the creation story in Scripture know that
when God viewed all that He had made, He pronounced it to be good.
Except, of course, when He looked at Adam, He said, “It
is not good that man should be alone.” Today’s
intelligentsia dismiss the story as myth and the truth it expresses
about the natural order of things as irrelevant. For many of them,
traditional marriage is passé. The marriage rate today is well
under half of what it was in 1969. Consequently, the number of
persons not living in families — persons the Census Bureau refers
to as “unrelated individuals” — has increased by more than three
times. Today, they comprise 17.5 percent of our population of 304
million; take note that better than one fifth of these unrelated
individuals live in poverty. Not exactly the yuppie life of
“Friends” or “Sex and the City.”
In these last 40 years, single-person heads of households
(male and female) have gone from 14 percent of all family units to
26 percent. Better than one fourth of these households live in
poverty. Yet, from the academics in the university to the actors in
Hollywood, those who are shaping popular culture today are pushing
a self-destructive, “me first” lifestyle; these opinion leaders
gloss over the selfishness of the choices they promote and
glamorize decisions about drugs and sex that ultimately scar the
lives of those young people who follow their lead. “It’s all good”
is their mantra. But where does that attitude lead?
Marriage, we were harangued by the feminist zealots, has
always been about male domination of women, not about two people
learning what it means to respect and value each other. According
to the feminist view, marriage only degrades and oppresses
women.
But is that actually the case? What if the give and take
of marriage — so necessary for two persons, usually opposite in
many respects, to get along — is, in fact, a positive teacher? In
the results of the current recession, we have a ready-made
experiment by which to examine this question.
When the economy goes into recession, businesses
(especially small ones) must make severe adjustments in order to
survive. Among the things they do as sales decline is to reduce
their work force to lower production. Experienced personnel,
however, are a valuable asset to a company, so managers try to hold
on to their most productive workers where possible; often this is
done by giving them maintenance work to do that has been deferred
during boom periods. And who gets the pink slip? Obviously, the
least productive and/or the most difficult to manage get weeded
out.
The data for 2009 are very clear about which class of
workers has the highest likelihood of ending up unemployed.
Unmarried males, whether or not they have children, are twice as
likely to become unemployed, and the same holds for unmarried
females with children.
The unemployment rate for married men 25-54 years of age
without children was 7.1 percent versus 14.5 percent for unmarried
men of the same age group without children. If we look at this same
age group for men with children, the comparison shows 6.7 percent
unemployment for married men versus 14.8 percent for unmarried men.
Clearly, marriage produces men who, on average, are more valued by
businesses trying to survive during this recession.
But does marriage do anything for women in the business
world? Although the current recession has been harder on men than
women, the effects of marriage on women’s employability are similar
to those for men. The unemployment rate in 2009 for married women
25-54 without children was 5.4 percent, and for unmarried women
without children it was 7.5 percent. In this same age group, the
unemployment rate of married women with children was 5.2 percent,
compared with an 11.8 percent rate for unmarried women.
It is unlikely that business managers looking to make it
through tough times choose persons on the basis of whether they are
married or not. So why do we see consistently higher unemployment
rates for unmarried men and women alike (controlling for both age
and presence of children)? There can be little doubt that managers
choose to retain those who have a set of traits and attitudes that
being married can help develop and which, in turn, help sustain a
marriage.
Now it goes without saying that there are good marriages
and there are bad marriages, depending upon the values and virtues
of the persons involved. But marriage does provide a framework with
a tremendous potential and incentive for learning how to work
together. Being unmarried may let you “have it your way,” but a
“my-way-or-the-highway” attitude doesn’t pay off on the job, where
the ability to compromise and get along are just as essential to
smooth operations as they are in a marriage.
It appears the creation story may have had it right all
along: it isn’t good for man (or woman) to be alone.
