By Jeremy Lott from the November 2009 issue
Two ex-roommates, two separate nuptials, in two different cities
-- all on the same day, which happened to be September 11.
Perhaps it wasn't the greatest idea to try to breeze into Reagan
National Airport on September 11 with just over a half hour to
spare. Thanks to the awful events of that day eight years ago, air
travel has become far less forgiving of time shavers and stragglers
-- as I've learned from painful personal experience. The days of
late arrivers racing down the terminal to just barely make their
flight is now the stuff of comic movies. There now exists an
inflexible 30-minute cutoff before each flight. Miss that, even by
a minute, and you, my friend, are in serious trouble.
It sure seemed I was in for it that day. A combination of
meetings and last-minute work and uncooperative taxi drivers
delayed my arrival at the airport that Friday until just after
cutoff. The automated check-in said I could fly standby on a flight
six hours later or purchase another ticket for an even later
flight. The lady at the other end of my usual booking service kept
me on hold for 10 minutes, then said she could book a new flight --
the next day. And for a few primal scream-inviting minutes, I
believed I had somehow left all my credit cards and driver's
license in the cab.
When the cards finally surfaced (wrong pocket) I decided to try
the checkout machine again and see about that standby flight. Then
the good Lord smiled and delayed my original flight just long
enough so I could print the boarding pass and make it through
Orange Alert-level security. The plane managed to snag the first
available takeoff and the flying conditions proved perfect and
picturesque. We arrived at the St. Louis airport within kissing
distance of on time. Take that, Osama.
I wasn't the only resident of my Fairfax, Virginia, townhouse to
go away to a rehearsal, bachelor party, and wedding that weekend.
Two friends and former townhousers had planned on getting married
this year and they didn't consult each other before setting the
dates on the same day. In their limited defense, they must have
figured, "Who in their right mind would pick the day after
September 11 to tie the knot?" Just a few years ago, the likely
travel headaches alone would have made that unthinkable.
So my roommate headed to Poughkeepsie, New York, and I went to
the Butterfly House in Chesterfield, Missouri, to witness the
nuptials of sometime AmSpec contributor Robert VerBruggen
and his bride, the former Jackie Stewart. Through the modern
miracle of text messaging, we kept each other apprised of the
goings-on at the other wedding. At 8:23 Saturday night came the
coda: "They're married." My party was well into the reception by
that point, somewhere between toasts and dancing. After the married
couple's first slow dance, to a love song Robert had written and
recorded for Jackie, the pace of the music picked up. That was my
cue to vamoose: I am a lousy dancer and tuxedos only add to the
horror. So I looked out on the duck pond and thought for a minute
about how odd this was: two weddings the day after September
11.
Weddings are chock-full of symbolism. The rings, the dress, the
candles -- the old, the new, the borrowed, the blue -- are there to
acknowledge the past while signaling a transformation. And maybe, I
thought, the date can point to something new as well. For a while
there, most Americans wouldn't dare consider holding a wedding that
close to that wretched day. But now, we're a little more hopeful.
The sentiment that is slowly forming isn't so much "move on" as
"move forward."
Was I right about that? Who knows, but it was one of those
smiley notions that you just can't shake -- even if you are
normally a devout pessimist. I rejoined the party, danced like
there was no yesterday, and clapped so hard that I burst a blood
vessel in one hand. I was smarting the next morning but it was
worth it.