One night in 1973, I was sitting in an old armchair my parents
had cast off in a little tiny house I was renting in Georgetown,
D.C. Maybe I shouldn't say "cast off." They generously gave it to
me. I lived in that little house with my girlfriend Pat. We had
very little money and lived very modestly. But Pat had gone to bed
and I was up reading John Gregory Dunne's great novel, Vegas: A
Memoir of a Dark Season. Or maybe it's a memoir and not a
novel, but I think it's a novel.
But anyway, the phone rang. It was Bob Tyrrell. He wanted me to
write for The Alternative. I had never heard of it. He
wanted me to write movie reviews. He said he had read my op-ed
pieces in the Wall Street Journal and the N.Y.
Times and liked them. But he also said he thought that since
my mother and father were so smart, I would probably be smart,
too.
My recollection is that he offered to pay me $40 per column. I
accepted.
Now, it is 34 years later. I have been with The
Alternative, now called The American Spectator, all
of that time.
The Spectator and Bob have been incredibly good to me.
They published my diary for the last twenty years or so. They put
Wlady in my life, an astounding gift. Wlady has been the author of
some of the best advice I have ever gotten. In 1994, I asked him if
I should fly coach or first class to Ireland to be an expert
witness in a trial. "What kind of expert witness flies coach?" he
asked, and from then on it was always first class to Ireland.
When my mother died in April of 1997, we buried her in the
Jewish Cemetery in Falls Church, Virginia. By Jewish custom, all of
the mourners throw a spadeful of dirt on the lowered coffin. Bob
Tyrrell did not just do it symbolically but pitched spadeful after
spadeful of dirt on Mom's coffin, sobbing as he did it. I can still
recall his strong back as he honored my mother thus. An Irish
subway construction man, with a brain, but still that strong Irish
back.
I have been the host of many a Spectator dinner. I
can't make the 40th anniversary one this year. By total
coincidence, I am speaking at Indiana University, where Bob founded
the Spectator years ago on that night.
But I will be thinking of the Spectator. How they gave
me the best party of my life when I turned 50, how they publish my
whining and my boasting and my fixations. How they never backed
down when faced with high office. I won't ever forget the
Spectator, and when my turn comes to join my parents at
the Jewish cemetery in Falls Church, I hope and pray Bob will be
there to throw on the first and the last spadefuls of dirt, and
Wlady is there to offer wisdom and counsel, and then to meet me on
The Other Side.
About the Author
Ben Stein is a writer, actor, economist, and lawyer living in Beverly Hills and Malibu. He writes "Ben Stein's Diary" for every issue of The American Spectator.