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br> -- Rob /p>

Jay, when was homosexuality defined as a mixed-up kid who is shy about communicating across gender lines? Sounds like a line from a bad New Bohemians song, where religion is a smile on a dog.

Granted, parents have an obligation to counsel, but at what age does the kid become a rugged individual with responsibility and accountability? I thought only Democrats arrogantly pushed their beliefs on others. I truly don't believe that you or I made a "choice" about our sexuality and, as reasonable people, I don't believe you or I want to change each other (unless you're hot -- just kidding).

As a gay conservative, however, I do agree with your position against the "diversity" notions. School segregation was a Democrat dinosaur from 50 years ago, and I can't believe they're trying it again with the gay population. While I understand the roots of the "diversity" issues and how it relates to the "melting pot" metaphor, the mistake is that they fail to realize that the melting pot refers to American society as a whole, not focusing on the individual ingredients. Sure, gay people add a little spice to the mix, but (pardon the analogy) I'm not going out to buy a 5-pound tub of allspice at Sam's Club and plant myself in front of the TV. Theodore Roosevelt said it best in his words on hyphenated Americans.

p>Sexuality is such a small part of who we are. But if you're going to discuss it, please don't cop-out at the end with a glib disclaimer about not taking sides. Moderates are defined as people who can't state their core beliefs, as Rush says (unless I'm misquoting him). Obviously you're overwhelmed with confusing and conflicting statements coming from different sides. You may want to check out your local Log Cabin chapter if you want to objectively discuss homosexuality in the "arena of ideas" (as Rush also says), without the political baggage from the left. br> -- unsigned /p> p> Jay D. Homnick replies: br> I personally know people who spent some years thinking they "were gay" before they pulled out of it. As a teenager, I had a friend who struggled with this impulse, and has been successfully married with children for going on thirty years, waging a fierce internal battle at every step, with the help of two psychologists and a very understanding wife. A girl I know was lured into a Lesbian relationship in a psychologically vulnerable moment and stayed in it all through college. Today she is married with children. /p>

Tom Bethell chronicled in these pages some years ago the story of a young man who was Roy Cohn's boyfriend for many years and later worked his way out of that behavior into happy married life.

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