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em>Kid: I have a feeling I’m adopted. I must ask my Mom.
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Friend: Why cause her pain by asking?
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Kid: Because I must know the truth, if I am really her child.
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Friend: I still think it’s a bad idea.
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(Mom enters the room.)
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Kid: Mom, am I adopted?
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Mom: You can’t be adopted.
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Kid: Why not?
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Mom: Because I would never have chosen you.
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This little skit reminds us of the enduring virtue of adoption.
The decision to bear a biological child is a sort of abstract
selection, more an endorsement of one’s partner: “I want for us to
have a kid with our genes merged into one.” But adopting is an
affirmation of the specific persona of that life: “I hereby invite
you to be my child.” Don’t let the infantile gurgling response
throw you; the kid is thrilled.
All this comes to mind today as we bury an adopted President,
Gerald Rudolff Ford Jr. (Ford was kind enough to alter the spelling
to Rudolph, perhaps in honor of Santa Claus bringing him the
Presidency.) His given name at birth was Leslie Lynch King Jr., but
Mr. King Sr., a tycoon with a temper, divorced his mother shortly
afterward. She chose more wisely the second time, a sturdier rather
than a flashier type. So house painter Gerald Rudolff Ford Sr.
adopted his wife’s child and provided for him, thereby assuring his
name a posterity he could scarcely have imagined. Similarly, Mr.
Blythe’s son assumed the Presidency as William Jefferson Blythe
Clinton, more honor accruing to adoptive father Mr. Clinton.
In President Ford’s case there is an added poignancy in the
notion that he was essentially an adopted President. The citizenry
had not voted for him as either President or Vice-President, so
they were called upon to adopt him in office, as it were. Fate
determined that an unelected President was the appropriate
replacement for one who was discredited by election chicanery.