By Quin Hillyer on 9.6.06 @ 12:08AM
Livingstons turn loss into helping others.
While sometimes a tragedy itself can't be turned into something
good, it still may be possible to make use of it for good
purposes.
So it is with a tragedy suffered in late July by former U.S.
Rep. Bob Livingston and his wife Bonnie and their family, when the
Livingstons' second oldest of four children, Richard, 37 years old,
was electrocuted in an utterly freakish accident while working to
remove a friend's Katrina-ravaged tree in New Orleans.
Within 12 hours, the Livingstons -- easily among the most
decent, kind and generous people you'll ever meet -- were making
for memorial donations arrangements (through executive board member
Beverly Young, wife of former U.S. House Appropriations Chairman
Bill Young), in lieu of flowers, to be sent to the Armed Forces
Foundation. The foundation is a fairly new organization dedicated
to serving the needs of injured military personnel and their
families.
The family's selection of a charity was fitting: Richard
Livingston, an artist and musician with a winning personality, was
a veteran, having served in military intelligence in South Korea;
and Bob Livingston had served in the Navy on one of the ships
patrolling the Caribbean during the Cuban Missile Crisis.
In a broader way, though, the charity is a fitting one for any
American to support. The Armed Forces Foundation, founded just in
2001, already is establishing a reputation among military families
as a wonderful boon in times of need. It provides direct financial
support to the families of injured and deceased servicemen and
women, along with housing assistance in some cases and numerous
morale-boosting efforts. The foundation has a particular
relationship with the Navy Lodge at National Naval Medical Center
in Bethesda, Md., paying for the rooms of family members visiting
wounded troops in the hospital.
"The American Forces Foundation has been absolutely spectacular
for us in their support of the families' needs out here," said Lt.
Col. John Worman, the officer in charge of the Marine Corps Liaison
Office at the medical center in Bethesda. "There's not a lot of
bureaucracy with them; it just happens.... Last year I believe it
was about $80,000 that they supported the families' lodging
requirements with, that were not otherwise provided by the
government. Their commitment has probably touched the lives of
every patient and family member out here."
Added Master Sergeant Terrell Jones, the senior enlisted advisor
at the facility: "They also come out once a month and do a dinner.
They basically create a setting where the patients' Moms or wives
or Dads can get out of the room and mingle."
THE FOUNDATION'S REACH EXTENDS well beyond the D.C. area, though.
Michelle Roche's husband, Army Private First Class Brian, suffered
a traumatic brain injury when shifting winds created havoc with a
parachute jump in training in Alaska. Brian was sent half a
continent away to the VA hospital in Minneapolis, and Michelle had
to leave three children in others' care back home, along with
having to leave her job behind, to be at her husband's side. What's
worse, Army rules didn't cover her plane ticket to Minnesota.
That's where the Armed Forces Foundation stepped in, paying
Michelle's plane fare plus other cash assistance totaling $800.
"With me having to leave work, me having to fly to be with him,
it was a godsend to us to have an organization help us with this,"
she said. "And they have kept in contact with us to see how he is
doing and to see if we need anything else. We are back at home now
and he is getting appointments back at home.... Please let them
know I thank them again."
In 2005, according to foundation President Patricia Driscoll,
the organization helped some 2,600 families of wounded service
people; just through mid-August of 2006, she said, it already has
helped another 2,500 this year.
"When somebody gets injured on duty, one or more family members
often have to miss work," Driscoll said. "By law they are allowed
12 weeks of leave [without losing their jobs], but that doesn't
mean they get paid for it. A lot of people live paycheck to
paycheck; when they get to stick around and stay with the person
who is wounded, because we help them, they don't lose their house
or their car or anything. The mission of our foundation is, we were
created to plug the holes that the government could not."
The foundation also organizes "morale events" such as "Mom's Day
Off," "Kid's Days Out" for up to six hours of supervised events at
a time, outdoor programs, concerts, fishing derbies, elementary
school letter-writing campaigns between children and service
people, and numerous others. All told, the foundation prides itself
that, as its web site puts it, "the foundation continues to
contribute 93% of all outside donations directly to military
families through foundation programming."
ONE OF THE MOST MOVING stories about the foundation comes from one
of its most enthusiastic regular volunteers at Bethesda, former
Marine corporal Jason Dominguez, now on leave from a legislative
aide position on Capitol Hill to work as political director for the
re-election campaign of U.S. Rep. Pat Tiberi of Ohio. Corporal
Dominguez was part of a unit featured in an A&E documentary and
that, separately, CNN reported (as related by Dominguez) "was part
of more major combat operations than any major unit since the
Korean War." Of his company of 325 in a six-month period, 23 lost
their lives and 59 others earned Purple Hearts while engaged in
firefights 84 times -- nearly every other day.
Once back home, Dominguez began volunteering for the Armed
Forces Foundation and found his interaction with the wounded troops
"was also comforting to me. Just talking to them, they also helped
me as much as I was able to help them."
Dominguez spoke fondly of the time he was part of a foundation
effort to bring some of the wounded to a Washington Wizards game.
Also, he said, "We would have dinners once a month; sometimes we
would take them something as simple as tacos from Taco Bell or Baha
Fresh and just hang out. Because I worked in Congress, I would make
sure they knew whoever their congressman was and if they needed
anything I would do my best to put them in touch with their own
congressman's office."
But the best thing he saw, Dominguez said, was "a gentleman who
was a veteran, in a wheelchair, and the special wheelchair he
needed was wider than the doorways of his house, which were all
very narrow. When the Armed Forces Foundation came to him, he said
all he wanted was for them to put a window in the side of his house
so he could watch his kids play in the yard. Well, they did better
than that: They arranged to re-do his whole house so it was more
handicapped accessible so he could go outside where the kids
were."
In a profound way, the Armed Forces Foundation is pro-troops and
pro-family, and it supports those troops and families at times of
greatest challenges and tragedy. And it's a great choice, it would
certainly seem, for somebody who refuses to let a tragedy be the
final word.
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In the first month after Richard Livingston's death, the
foundation reports having received more than 140 donations in his
memory, totaling more than $25,000.
The Foundation accepts donations at 16 North Carolina Avenue,
SE, Washington, D.C., 20003, or at its website.
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