By Reid Collins on 4.1.05 @ 12:06AM
Not only Terri Schiavo died yesterday morning.
Something else died yesterday morning. No, don't mean Terri
Schiavo, that "vegetable" the portside media has been telling us
has been deceased all along. What died was trust. To say that it
had been at death's door for many years is a truism. But yesterday
the trust plighted by men and women through the ceremony, sacrament
to some, of marriage, shuffled off a remainder of its mortal
coil.
You've heard the knell for days, on the subways, the ferryboats,
and in the polls. "Well, after all, he was a young man. Why
shouldn't he find a life for himself, another woman's arms, and
reproduce? It's only natural." And, "What do those religious
rightists in Congress think they're doing, trying to make a federal
case out of that brain-dead woman that the courts of proper
jurisdiction have already pronounced dead? And that showboating
President, flying back in the middle of the night to sign a bill
that had all the authority of a papal bull?"
So, much of America received the news of Schiavo's death as one
who has been shot at and missed, relief at the whine of a bullet
making its way harmlessly into the brush of life. That was close.
But now we can join F. Scott's boats against the current and never
mind the tide that's taking us. Into the past? There was one. It
was filled with pledges: "In sickness and in health...until death
us do part." "Love, honor..."
Fully fifty percent of those repeating such phrases in America
today will one day wish them unsaid, and will have them undone. So
is it a wonder, this talk on the subways, buses, and ferryboats,
that this man was only doing what comes naturally and yet fought
fiercely to maintain suzerainty over that personage to whom, after
all, he had made pledges. Adultery? Piffle. This, too, is a matter
of personal choice and hasn't the highest court in the land come
down on the side of choice in a related matter? Besides, what
standing does a vegetable have as a complainant in a divorcement
lawsuit?
The portside press tells us with some satisfaction that a
benefit of the Schiavo drama is a closer examination of the ineptly
titled "living will." That there is a rush to make explicit wishes
with regard to what steps are to be taken to prolong life. And of
course the tendency is to say, "no heroics. And, yes, distribute my
vital organs on any street corner that will take them." Such is the
first blush tendency of the young and healthy, who in the same
document will assign a loved one the real responsibility for
decision.
Somewhere, kismet had another ending for this. A husband decides
that another road has been taken, that there is a remnant of a love
once felt for what he now regards a vegetable in need of finality,
and that this remainder can be deposited properly only with those
who gave her birth. Fourteen days before the arrival of April he
conveys that love, and proceeds down that other road, with the
other woman and the children he has created -- his right, claim the
women on the subway -- and America's nightmare recedes into other
headlines. It was a shock, but with no tsunami.
Then somewhere, upstate, a young couple whose names we'll never
know, might stand and say those things one to the other and truly
believe. For them trust will not have died in a dismal room in
Florida. Would this were so.
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