By Jed Babbin on 12.20.04 @ 12:07AM
The importance of what they and thousands like them are doing for our troops in Iraq cannot be exaggerated.
Zach Lee, Al Johnson, and Josh Weiman are very lucky young men.
It doesn't take long to figure that out. All you have to do is take
the time to talk to their moms. Terri Lee, Sharon Johnson, and
Joleen Wieman are doing something no government, charity or
military unit can do for their sons and the members of their sons'
units: sending love and support by the bucketful to the guys in
harm's way.
Members of the Minnesota National Guard, Josh and Al are
stationed in Iraq and Zach will probably be there by the time you
read this. For Terri, Joleen and Sharon, this will be their first
Christmas without their sons at home. It's going to be hard, but
they're not taking it lying down.
Terri and her husband Dave live in Zimmerman, Minnesota. Zach,
about 21, is one of seven children. He joined the National Guard
two years ago (and then told his mom about it). Zach's wife, Tina,
is only 19. Just before Zach deployed to Iraq a couple of days ago,
Tina went by herself to see him off because Terri wanted them to
have some time alone. Zach had a tough time saying goodbye to his
sisters and brothers, and it was hard on them as well. Andy, age
11, idolizes Zach. When Andy found out Zach was going to Iraq,
Terri overheard him asking Zach, "Why are you doing this to Mom?"
Zach's answer is etched in Terri's mind: "Andy, you have to know
I'm not doing this to Mom, I'm doing this for Mom, and you have to
remember that." Terri told me, "Andy now says Zach is doing this
for all of us," and plans to go into the military when he's old
enough. (Andy: your mom told me you were thinking about going Air
Force. Do it, dude. Aim high.)
Zach is trained as a tank driver, but will probably be in a
Humvee patrolling Baghdad. Terri wanted to do something special for
her son before he left, so she and a bunch of her friends got
together to make a few Christmas pillow cases for the guys who
wouldn't be home for the holiday. A few days later, thirteen women
had made 46 pillow cases. A day or two after that, the cases were
sent off with boxes full of candy, cookies and Special K bars
(Zach's favorite.) The Lees are gathering their extended family at
a resort in northern Minnesota on Christmas day. Zach will be on
everyone's mind.
WHEN SOMEBODY WANTS TO do something to help the troops, the
Minnesota Military Moms are all over it. Some are just quietly
proud of their sons. Sharon Johnson is not a talker. She just dives
in and helps. She's been a reader of my columns for many months,
and quickly volunteered to connect me with other military moms when
I asked her for help.
Twenty-four-year-old Al Johnson is Sharon and Bruce Johnson's
oldest son. He joined the National Guard soon after turning 18 in
1998. He's stationed at Camp Bucca in southern Iraq, near Basra. Al
is an MP, usually assigned to convoy security duty. There aren't a
lot of comforts over there, but his big advantage is the cell
phone. For a little more than a buck a minute, he can call home
during off-duty hours and often does. He speaks to his wife, Katy,
almost every day and to his parents only a little less often. They
often send phone-camera pictures back and forth. They're a great
stress reliever.
The Johnsons are planning a quiet Christmas; services at a
nearby cathedral, and then an easygoing day at home. Sharon quoted
her husband, Bruce, as saying Christmas will be "just another day"
at the Johnsons'. They're saving Al's presents for him. Christmas
will come to the Johnsons when Al comes home. For Joleen Wieman,
Christmas won't go uncelebrated. She may even slow down for a
minute to celebrate.
Interviewing Joleen is not for the faint of pen. By the time you
get past the third or fourth answer, your mind's ear can hear her
brain engine revving while you ask the next one. Finish the
question, and Joleen pops the clutch and is off down the track.
She's an office supervisor for the Ramsey, Minnesota police
department. She and her husband, Dave, have three boys. Josh is the
oldest. Tyler is 16, and Kyle is 10. Josh's wife -- Molly -- is
home with their three-month-old baby. When Joleen isn't at work or
taking care of them, she's off doing the military mom job.
Joleen says the support she's getting from people in the
community and at work is "absolutely awesome." She and a couple of
other moms raised $1,000 at a garage sale, and used the money to
buy things the guys in Iraq say they want. About $500 of it went to
instant Gatorade packets, which happen to be the right size to turn
a quart canteen of water into an instant source of metabolites
which are essential to hydration in the heat of Iraq. She said the
VFW was donating prepaid long distance telephone credit cards,
which the guys treasure and use often.
Josh is serving past his 6-year enlistment, but according to his
mom he's got a good attitude. He's doing something he thinks is
important, patrolling Baghdad, making contact with the Iraqis.
Though he misses Molly and wants to see the baby, he's not whining
about being held on active duty.
MINNESOTA -- A VERY BLUE state -- must be a very odd place these
days. John Kerry won Minnesota in November by three points. Its
population isn't large compared to many states, but about 13,000
Minnesotans are in the National Guard, and many are in Iraq. The
support the troops get from their families is incredible.
Unfortunately for the younger members of the family, politics
sometimes is substituted for the support they should receive from
their teachers. Maybe it's a blue state problem.
The normal pressures of being 16 are enough for Tyler Wieman to
have to deal with. He and brother Kyle are worried about Josh. And
about themselves, thanks to teachers who are doing their best to
scare the hell out of the kids. Tyler's teachers have been telling
him he's going to be drafted and sent off to war. Their mom is too
busy helping to be really outraged about this, but we should do it
for her. Any teacher who is scaring kids -- especially those with
brothers or sisters in harm's way -- should be fired forthwith.
Fortunately for Tyler, calls from brother Josh, stationed in
Baghdad -- and his parents' effort to set the record straight --
are relieving some of that pressure.
The Wiemans' Christmas will be unusual without Josh, but they've
made sure his will be as good as it can be. Molly and Josh have a
new home, and the family is fixing it up -- shelving and tool racks
and such -- for his return. Joleen is not slowing down for anything
else.
The importance of what these moms are doing -- matched all
across the country by tens of thousands of moms like them -- cannot
be exaggerated. We look proudly at our soldiers, sailors, airmen
and marines, and the way they bear every burden and make every
sacrifice in defense of freedom. Zach Lee, Al Johnson and Josh
Wieman are in a bad place at a tough time. That is the fate of
every American in Iraq between now and the Iraqi election, and for
some time to come. A large part of what sustains them is the
support they get -- every day by mail, by phone, and on the
Internet -- from their families back home. Terri, Sharon and Joleen
are very proud of their sons. Their sons should be just as proud of
them.
To every American military mom at home and overseas, Merry
Christmas and God bless you for what you do.
TAS Contributing Editor Jed Babbin is the author
of Inside the Asylum: Why the UN and Old Europe Are Worse Than
You Think (Regnery Publishing).
topics:
Military, Iraq