In Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities (Hyperion;
342 pages; $23.95), investigative reporter Alexandra Robbins,
famous for uncovering the secrets of Yale’s Skull and Bones Society
as well as George W. Bush’s cloistered college grades, turns her
eyes on the Greek system. Robbins spent a year undercover, posing
as a student at an unnamed American university, and following, in
depth, the lives of four young sorority women.
Although Robbins claims to have set out to dispel the myths
about sorority life, instead she found that “many of the rumors (as
well as the fantasies) about sororities are indeed staggeringly
true,” including, but not limited to “mind games, prostitution,
racism, forced binge drinking, nudity, verbal abuse, cheating,
eating disorders, rituals, mean girls, and secrecy.”
Indeed, by the end of the book, all this and more is covered.
Those expecting a scandalously playful joyride from
Pledged may as well look elsewhere. This is not some
sorority version of Animal House. Here are young women who
have the grades, have the money, have the social status, have the
looks and consider themselves to be strong “liberated” women. And
yet, they continuously subject themselves to such horribly base
humiliations as to make one wonder if these women know it takes
more than saying you are liberated to make it so.
Is it liberating, for example, to lay on a floor blindfolded and
naked while snickering fraternity brothers “circle the fat” areas
of your body that “need work” with permanent marker? Is it
liberating to have to have the plumbing in your house routinely
changed because the stomach acid of the dozens of bulimics you live
with is eating through the steel? Is it liberating to not think
there is anything wrong with that? To have your fellow sisters
decide it is time for you to lose your virginity, and when you
demure, to have be drugged unconscious and left with a fraternity
brother willing to deflower you? To have your sorority refuse to
allow you to report you’ve been date raped because it might hurt
your chances of winning Greek Week?
In one particularly gut wrenching scene, a sorority sister,
after being rejected by a fraternity brother she had a crush on,
sleeps with another one who had date raped her only a few months
earlier. To her surprise, sex with her former attacker does not
console her.
At moments, the sadness is juxtaposed with a bit of
unintentional humor, as when two sisters end up being filmed
dancing naked on table tops at a spring break event.
“I was wasted,” one sister said. “The Travel Channel was there.
Apparently, I signed the release form.”
“Whatever,” her fellow sister said. “We leave in two days, and I
promised the fraternity guys they’d see my boobs by the end of
senior year.”
ROBBINS, EVER THE ADVOCATE for her young subjects, sometimes
doesn’t seem to recognize the absurdity of what she is writing.
“Every time an ‘ass song’ played, Amy playfully backed up into the
brothers, who affectionately referred to her behind as ‘ghetto
booty,’” At one party Robbins attended, “Taylor and Caitlin, who by
now had joined Amy on the dance floor, started a pool to guess how
long it would take for Amy’s breasts to pop out of her shirt.”
(Crowing throughout the book about the lack of Greek racial
sensitivity, Robbins apparently finds “ghetto booty” an endearing
phrase.) Upon arriving at the party, a fraternity brother gushes,
“This is great! A hundred drunk girls!”
But while Robbins book makes you feel terribly sorry for these
girls, she isn’t quite able to make them likable. Robbins paints a
portrait of houses full of sisters who frequently cheat on their
boyfriends, and take pride in getting away with it. They go
“slumming” at “loser fraternities” and openly mock the young men
when they’re kind to them. They enjoy being seen and promoting
themselves as sexual objects.
Worst of all, they are utterly convinced, by and large, of their
superiority over the mere mortals they share the campus with. “I
don’t know if you guys noticed, but when a girl who was ugly, fat,
had no style, seemed dorky, or her clothes didn’t fit came up,
instead of moving forward, you guys stepped backward,” the
recruitment chair lectures the sisters after one rush event. “You
can’t be that obvious about it.”
Not that you can’t judge people on a superficial basis, mind
you. Just don’t be obvious about it.
Even when Robbins tries to portray some heartwarming scene, the
sisters come out of it looking hopelessly tacky. At one point, a
sister threatens to kill herself, and her roommates deal with the
situation by singing the disco standard “I Will Survive” to
her.
When a fraternity brother gives a sister his lavaliere, a charm
with his fraternity letters on it that he will be hazed viciously
for parting with, the sister is pleased because it shows that the
brother “loves me enough to get tortured by his fraternity.” That’s
a high price to pay for the love of a woman who is part of a social
clique that celebrates infidelity, don’t you think?
WHEN A GROUP OF people subvert their individuality to the
groupthink of an elitist organization, almost anything can be
justified. Is this fair characterization of every sorority?
Absolutely not. But it is clearly a widespread enough phenomenon to
warrant discussion.
Several times in Pledged the young women seem to waver
in their cruelty to those outside the sorority or question the
morality of certain actions. But there is always someone there to
say, “No you must do what makes you happy. That’s all that
matters.” In the single-minded pursuit of self-satisfaction, they
have somehow made themselves completely miserable. It is, sadly, a
story as old as the world.