By Francis X. Rocca on 8.30.02 @ 12:30AM
Is jail the place to learn good parenting?
The next time a parent threatens to "tan the hide" of an unruly
child, he'd better do so out of hearing of the police. They might
suspect him of planning a trip to the beach.
At a fair in Ohio earlier this month, a county sheriff spotted
three small children with signs of severe
sunburn, and immediately did what any responsible officer of
the law would do: he arrested the children's mother.
"If I ignore this and something happens, then shame on me," the
sheriff told the press afterwards. "There was no sunscreen or
nothing on those children."
Unable to raise $15,000 for bail, the mother spent eight days
behind bars. Now she's being tried for child endangerment, and
facing up to six more months in jail.
Leaving three babies out in the sun so long that their skin
starts to blister is terribly negligent, given what most of us know
about skin cancer. Maybe the woman was ignorant, or maybe she was
callously reckless.
But how could it not occur to anyone -- if not to the sheriff,
then to the judge who set the bail -- that an abrupt, eight-day
separation from their mother might harm the infants at least as
badly as lack of sunscreen?
Two of the children were ten-month old twins. Even if their
mother wasn't nursing, the sudden lack of physical contact must
have been traumatic for them. It may have been worse for their
two-year-old sister, big enough to recognize that mommy was being
taken away.
This is obviously an extreme case, which is why it made the
papers. Maybe the county is pressing charges (one misdemeanor
count, reduced from the original three felony counts) merely to
improve its bargaining position in the inevitable lawsuit
settlement. Yet the actions of the authorities in this case typify
a mentality which all parents, even those scrupulous about their
children's health, ought to fear.
In 15 U.S. states, according to Britain's Independent
newspaper, "separated spouses have lost custody of their children
because of their
smoking habits." Last March a judge in Utica, New York, ended a
boy's compulsory visits to his mother because she was a smoker --
even though she never lit up in the boy's presence -- and warned
her to quit if she wanted to see him again.
The idea that an outsider can decide on someone's fitness as a
mother based on any isolated factor is arrogant, inhumane and
foolish. As if even a patently unhealthy habit can make all a
parent's other qualities irrelevant.
Smoking, drinking, letting the kids sit too close to the TV ...
The "It Takes a Village" school of child rearing would have
government social workers visiting people's homes to prevent such
abuses, ostensibly through "education," but unmistakably with the
power of the state to coerce the incorrigible.
Is it hard to imagine that the social workers' purview would
sooner or later extend beyond a child's physical health to take in
his psychological and cultural health, too? In that case, there'd
be no limit to possible interference.
Suppose a father likes to take his son to Nation of Islam or Ku
Klux Klan rallies. You will agree (I hope) that this is loathsome.
But would you presume to break up that family and put the kid in
foster care? I feel sure that courts will soon be taking such
matters into account in deciding whether parents have a right to
raise their children. If they haven't started doing so already.
Maybe I'm overreacting. I hope so. But I suspect there would be
much more alarming press about this prospect if the people who
write newspapers and produce newscasts felt that they could ever
lose parental autonomy themselves. Not only do most journalists
share the middle-class values of enlightened parenting, they also
feel cushioned against government power.
People who lose custody of their kids because they smoke, or end
up in jail because they didn't think to use sunscreen, are not
professionals. They're the kind of people who can't scrape together
$15,000 bail. But they might be on the front lines of a struggle
that will eventually involve many more.
Last week in this space I indulged in a rant
against the wretchedness of service in Europe, and particularly in
Italy. One sympathetic reader wrote in to ask: "How on earth can
Mr. Rocca abide Europe?"
A fair question, and one of these days I should set out some of
the reasons, starting with food, that I'm glad to live where I do.
For now I'll just say that jailing a mother for letting her kids
get sunburned is something most Italians wouldn't be able to
comprehend, much less approve of. This is one area in which I hope
Italy never catches up with the States.
topics:
Education, Islam, Law